Prayer is a vital part of every healthy marriage. Marriage requires a covering of prayer. Our marriages are meant to emulate the relationship of Christ with His church. This means a healthy marriage is a threat to the enemy, and he will likely do all he can do to disrupt a healthy union between spouses.
Continually covering your marriage in prayer is a great defense against the enemy. 1 Thessalonians 5:17 tells us to pray without ceasing. Prayer should be a continual part of our daily lives as believers.
Below I am sharing 3 powerful prayers every spouse should pray.
1. Lord, help me to see my spouse’s strengths.
Weaknesses are always more evident than strengths. Weaknesses are more glaring and therefore can be all we focus on when we see our spouses.
The first time God really brought this to my attention was when I came downstairs one evening to a clean Livingroom. While I was putting our daughter to sleep my husband put away her toys and tidied up a bit.
The thing is, it took me a few minutes to even notice that the room had been cleaned. But rewind to the previous night when I walked down the stairs to a room that had not been tidied and the mess was all I could see.
Do you see how the bad is often so much more obvious than the good? It is far easier to notice the weaknesses in others than it is the strengths. So pray often that God will make your spouse’s strengths more apparent than their weaknesses.
2. Lord, help me to see my spouse through your eyes.
I feel this is one of the most powerful prayers we can pray. Seeing someone through the eyes of the Father changes everything, and it is one I pray over numerous relationships in my life.
Ask God often to help you see your spouse through His eyes rather than your own. When we see someone through the loving eyes of the Father, their faults become less apparent. We can begin to see past who they might be in this moment. And start to see who God intends for them to be.
1 Samuel 16:7, “But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”
3. Lord, help me to think the best of my spouse.
A few weeks ago, I sat down on the couch feeling pretty defeated, and I began to open up to my husband about some frustrations I was feeling. They weren’t frustrations I was feeling towards him but just things I was feeling toward various situations in my life.
After I finished opening up to him, I felt as though he hardly acknowledged what I said and just began talking about something else. I felt myself getting upset and wanting to shut down. But then I prayed the simple prayer, “Lord, help me to think the best of him”.
If I am truly thinking the best of him, I won’t immediately assume that he didn’t care about my feelings or that I was trying to open up to him. I would instead think he must not have understood that I was trying to confide in him, and a little encouragement would have been helpful.
This simple prayer can have a huge impact on your marriage and various relationships in your life. I encourage you to pray it often, and when you feel yourself thinking poorly of the potentially innocent actions of your spouse, lean into God to help you think the best instead.
Prayers Every Spouse Should Pray
Prayer is key to a happy, healthy marriage. When two people join together to become one, conflict is bound to arise from time to time. But prayer is a powerful way to keep your heart and mind healthy as you press towards a flourishing marriage.
I believe the three prayers above can have a huge impact on equipping you to be the best spouse you can be. Pray them often. Ask the Holy Spirit to bring them to your mind in the moments you need them most.
Ask God to help you see the strengths in your spouse, to see your spouse through His eyes, and to help you think the best of your spouse. Then watch your marriage begin to transform into the relationship God always intended for it to be.
Looking for more ways to grow spiritually as a couple? Check out Lauren’s post: 5 Way to Grow Spiritually as a Couple.
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Lauren Prezzano is a wife, mom, and most recently a blogger. Her passion is to know Jesus intimately and to share Him with others. She writes weekly at laurenprezzano.com and would love for you to join her there.